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Anonymous
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SURE...best friends at that!!! it mostly works when the two are on the same emotional level and expectations are clear; have fun, enjoy each others company, and relax!!! our journey here is shorter than we think - Count It ALL Joy, mel4rd
WHY YES MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE JUST FRIEND YOU HAVE TO MAKE YOUR SELF VERY CLEAR ABOUT WHAT IT IS YOU WANT AS NEVER HAPPY WITH THE OTHER PERSON EMOTIONS AND BY THE WAY ONE OF MY BEST FRIEND'S HAPPEN TO BE MALE WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS SINCE 1992 AND "NO" HE'S NOT GAY AT ALL
Ummm....yeeeaahhh. I'm gonna have to disagree with some of the other bloggers. I don't thing its possible ...at least initially. I mean think about it....when u meet some one ur attracted to them physically. I dont think anyone would even talk to someone they found unattractive to that particular person. And, I'm not only speaking of physical attraction. But anyway, I feel like men and women only become friends when they realize that a relationship beyond that is impossible. No man goes into it thinking "hey now i have a good friend girl" that is of course unless he is gay.
Let face women are the dominant one's in this situation! A women knows from the jump who they will sleep with from the first encounter with a man. I have friends that I've known for over 10yrs without any sexual encounters. Sure they wanted/want to screw me but since I'm unwilling they just have me around as the girl they can talk to you about their female problems. True if at anytime I said you know what, why don't we screw they probably wouldn't take me serious the first few times because we developed that "friends relation". But again what it boils down too is that whether the woman knows it or not she has the control over every sexual situation that gets started with a man.
You asked the question can men and women be friends? This can be answered 2 ways. If they have never dated and or been intimate with one another ( physically or emotionally), then no, let go and let flow. If they are just 2 people with the same likes and dislikes and enjoy hanging with no strings attached, then yes they can be mutual or even best friends. Bottom line, you must first understand where you are in the beginning, so that you can predict where you will be in the end.
SOME men and SOME women can be friends. It depends on the two people. There are some men who absolutely cannot be just friends with a female and vice versa.
Only if one party isn't interested in the other. My best friend and I met on a blind date. Key word: Best friend. He's in love with me, but I don't want him.
I enjoy your tunes!! I was cleaning and turned up the volume. Very nice! I was crising around, cleaning, imagine that. thanks for the lift. Yes men and woman can be friends. If there is a physical attraction and one is not available for a closer relationship then I would hope that the other can handle and encourage the other person without manipulationg into very dangerous territory. Once you have physical I do not care what anyone says the relationship changes. Not many got to see my naked body and proud of it, not ego in there I am blessed with not having to worry about the figure. anyhoo keep up the work it is great. I have a blog I am on a different planet then you probaly age or do I detect some spiritual direction in you? We all have it do we all live it? Not I think you might? May God Bless I will come back and listen to your music. I would think about another relationship if my man were passed on otherwise I am in it for the long haul better or worse. I have eyes thats as far as it goes. I have lots of awesome male friends. They are the best to have! Have a darlin day Skye https://keys4crossing.blogspot.com Cheerio
I have to somewhat agree with Anonymous based upon my own life experiences...I've been told numerous times that "I can't just be your friend" or "I don't want to be just your friend". Thus, those guys are no longer around because they couldn't take "NO". On the other hand, there have been guys that have come to respect the "NO" they got. Unfortunately, those guys are extremely few and far between. To answer your question though, I would definitely say "YES" men and women CAN be friends...Despite the fact that one party may test the boundaries of the friendship, it is possible for it to endure when the other party involved "sticks to their guns". Sometimes we by nature kick against the very things that we need/want in our lives (and a loyal friendship of the opposite sex is always a positive addition that should be given the opportunity to thrive before the pursuit of anything else more serious, at least that's how I view it).
Part 2 (Yea, I wasn't done yet. I just had to go to work): Okay, let me clarify a portion of my first comment. I said that we often by nature kick against the very thing we need out of a developing relationship by overlooking the power of a male/female friendship in our lives. What I ultimately mean to imply is that establishing & maintaining a friendship of the opposite sex is mostly a means of DISCIPLINE (regularly exercising rule/control over ones instincts). An age old saying is that "we can't help who we love". I couldn't disagree more!!! We can control who we develop feelings for and/or the nature of the emotions we carry for a person. If we couldn't we'd all be susceptible to falling for 600 pound, 83 years old Harry with 3 whole teeth in his mouth...because we just couldn't help ourselves! (LOL) NO! Besides the fact that there is no physical attraction, we do not allow ourselves to see Harry in that light even if he is somehow an awesome guy. Let me give a more youthful example...how about how dudes can be getting to know a female and time they get that "golden ticket" (don't act like you don't know what I mean by that), they quickly & easily disable the connection between them. They're able to do this because although there was a physical attraction, they did not allow their emotions to get caught up with that female despite the apparent potential for something deeper than sex to develop. Good 'ol discipline, my friend! So, if we could approach relationships with a disciplined mindset not to allow our physical attraction or emotions to lead us with every engagement we have with the opposite sex, we'd see more successful male/female friendships.
From a females prospective I have pondered this question for the last 5 years of my life particularly because my significant other stated that men and woman can not be friends. At the time that he stated that, i disagreed with him. Now I agree that men and woman can not be friends and it is for the same reasons that Anonymous stated below. I had two male best friends. One of them only stuck around because he wanted me sexually and that was not possible and the other i ended up developing feelings for. Neither of them are my friends now because I couldnt get what I really wanted from the one that i developed feelings for and the other one couldnt get what he wanted. In the end I am now left with no male best friends.
13 comments:
SURE...best friends at that!!! it mostly works when the two are on the same emotional level and expectations are clear; have fun, enjoy each others company, and relax!!! our journey here is shorter than we think - Count It ALL Joy,
mel4rd
WHY YES MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE JUST FRIEND YOU HAVE TO MAKE YOUR SELF VERY CLEAR ABOUT WHAT IT IS YOU WANT AS NEVER HAPPY WITH THE OTHER PERSON EMOTIONS AND BY THE WAY ONE OF MY BEST FRIEND'S HAPPEN TO BE MALE WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS SINCE 1992 AND "NO" HE'S NOT GAY AT ALL
Ummm....yeeeaahhh. I'm gonna have to disagree with some of the other bloggers. I don't thing its possible ...at least initially. I mean think about it....when u meet some one ur attracted to them physically. I dont think anyone would even talk to someone they found unattractive to that particular person. And, I'm not only speaking of physical attraction. But anyway, I feel like men and women only become friends when they realize that a relationship beyond that is impossible. No man goes into it thinking "hey now i have a good friend girl" that is of course unless he is gay.
Let face women are the dominant one's in this situation! A women knows from the jump who they will sleep with from the first encounter with a man. I have friends that I've known for over 10yrs without any sexual encounters. Sure they wanted/want to screw me but since I'm unwilling they just have me around as the girl they can talk to you about their female problems. True if at anytime I said you know what, why don't we screw they probably wouldn't take me serious the first few times because we developed that "friends relation". But again what it boils down too is that whether the woman knows it or not she has the control over every sexual situation that gets started with a man.
You asked the question can men and women be friends? This can be answered 2 ways. If they have never dated and or been intimate with one another ( physically or emotionally), then no, let go and let flow. If they are just 2 people with the same likes and dislikes and enjoy hanging with no strings attached, then yes they can be mutual or even best friends. Bottom line, you must first understand where you are in the beginning, so that you can predict where you will be in the end.
SOME men and SOME women can be friends. It depends on the two people. There are some men who absolutely cannot be just friends with a female and vice versa.
Only if one party isn't interested in the other. My best friend and I met on a blind date. Key word: Best friend. He's in love with me, but I don't want him.
I enjoy your tunes!! I was cleaning and turned up the volume. Very nice! I was crising around, cleaning, imagine that. thanks
for the lift. Yes men and woman
can be friends. If there is a
physical attraction and one is not available for a closer relationship then I would hope that the other can handle and encourage the other person without manipulationg into very dangerous territory. Once you have physical I do not care what anyone says the relationship changes. Not many got to see my naked body and proud of it, not ego in there I am blessed
with not having to worry about the figure. anyhoo keep up the work it is great. I have a blog I am on a different planet then you probaly age or do I detect some spiritual
direction in you? We all have it do we all live it? Not I think you might? May God Bless
I will come back and listen to your music. I would think about another relationship if my man were
passed on otherwise I am in it for the long haul better or worse. I have eyes thats as far as it goes. I have lots of awesome male friends. They are the best to have!
Have a darlin day Skye
https://keys4crossing.blogspot.com
Cheerio
I have to somewhat agree with Anonymous based upon my own life experiences...I've been told numerous times that "I can't just be your friend" or "I don't want to be just your friend". Thus, those guys are no longer around because they couldn't take "NO". On the other hand, there have been guys that have come to respect the "NO" they got. Unfortunately, those guys are extremely few and far between. To answer your question though, I would definitely say "YES" men and women CAN be friends...Despite the fact that one party may test the boundaries of the friendship, it is possible for it to endure when the other party involved "sticks to their guns". Sometimes we by nature kick against the very things that we need/want in our lives (and a loyal friendship of the opposite sex is always a positive addition that should be given the opportunity to thrive before the pursuit of anything else more serious, at least that's how I view it).
Part 2 (Yea, I wasn't done yet. I just had to go to work): Okay, let me clarify a portion of my first comment. I said that we often by nature kick against the very thing we need out of a developing relationship by overlooking the power of a male/female friendship in our lives. What I ultimately mean to imply is that establishing & maintaining a friendship of the opposite sex is mostly a means of DISCIPLINE (regularly exercising rule/control over ones instincts). An age old saying is that "we can't help who we love". I couldn't disagree more!!! We can control who we develop feelings for and/or the nature of the emotions we carry for a person. If we couldn't we'd all be susceptible to falling for 600 pound, 83 years old Harry with 3 whole teeth in his mouth...because we just couldn't help ourselves! (LOL) NO! Besides the fact that there is no physical attraction, we do not allow ourselves to see Harry in that light even if he is somehow an awesome guy. Let me give a more youthful example...how about how dudes can be getting to know a female and time they get that "golden ticket" (don't act like you don't know what I mean by that), they quickly & easily disable the connection between them. They're able to do this because although there was a physical attraction, they did not allow their emotions to get caught up with that female despite the apparent potential for something deeper than sex to develop. Good 'ol discipline, my friend! So, if we could approach relationships with a disciplined mindset not to allow our physical attraction or emotions to lead us with every engagement we have with the opposite sex, we'd see more successful male/female friendships.
definitely! most of my best friends are girls and if there is any sexual tension or what not, we just joke about it!
From a females prospective I have pondered this question for the last 5 years of my life particularly because my significant other stated that men and woman can not be friends. At the time that he stated that, i disagreed with him. Now I agree that men and woman can not be friends and it is for the same reasons that Anonymous stated below. I had two male best friends. One of them only stuck around because he wanted me sexually and that was not possible and the other i ended up developing feelings for. Neither of them are my friends now because I couldnt get what I really wanted from the one that i developed feelings for and the other one couldnt get what he wanted. In the end I am now left with no male best friends.
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